Endorsing Donald Trump is like dating that person all your friends and family despise. Your relatives are always wondering, “What the heck is this crazy boyfriend going to say or do next?” The statements or actions are so perplexing you convince yourself that the person is a professional troll. However, your family loves you and respects you, so they tolerate the person.
He’s like that one guy at a party who thinks it’s cool to be a bully, but instead of feeling scared, people feel pity more than anything. Instead of averting their eyes in fear, everyone is confused at how someone with his world views functions in the 21st century, let alone campaigns for President of the United States.
You know those relationships that keep giving you reasons to say “F**k this, I’m out!”? Reasons where the person constantly berates you.
They tell you things like:
You’re a rapist. You’re a terrorist. You’re a woman, and it’s disgusting that you menstruate. You don’t fit the social construct of what beauty is. You should be in the kitchen where you belong. Your son died fighting for America, but his sacrifice was nothing compared to my sacrifice to save America. Or even worse, they admit to sexual assault, yet dub it as “locker room talk.”
Instead of inspiring you to be a better version of yourself, he constantly degrades you. The “words” eat at your psyche and morale until you start to believe you are worthless and need someone like him to save you.
You do not need him to save you!
Instead of taking an objective stance, or listening to reasonable advice from friends who love and care about you, you keep going back to this scumbag. How many asinine things does this man…wait, no. I can’t give him the decency of calling him a man. That would imply he stands up for what is right, holds himself to a higher standard, respects women, and has the decency to apologize when he’s clearly, well at least to sane people, done or said something egregious. How many things does this…thing have to say in order for you to wake up and say, “BOY, BYE!”
Yes, in relationships disagreements exist, but they should not create an environment that insults or denigrates the fabric of your identity. In an oddly successful attempt to win the most coveted office on our planet, he has appealed to all the things that Make America Terrible. He is an abuser. He is a vitriolic demagogue preying not only on the insecurities of one partner with a dependent personality, but also his narcissism is parasitically gnawing on the brains of millions. And, like so many infections that go untreated, they fester until they kill. Donald trump is your abuser, and he is killing you America!
Abusers have so much power over their victims because they strategically try to isolate them. As human beings, we put up walls because of fear and insecurity. Donald Trump does not want to build a wall to protect you. He is building a wall to have more power to manipulate you and separate you from the reality that he is using you. He will be sitting on the iron throne while you drown in your fear, doubt, and ignorance.
Abusers financially exploit their victims by controlling the money in a relationship. How many times has Trump tried to exploit you? Was it the Trump Taj Mahal? Was it Trump Castle? Was it Trump Plaza and Hotel? Was it Trump Hotels Casino and Resorts? Was it Trump Entertainment Resorts? Was it that time he told you to attend his “university,” but you found it was like that time you repeatedly wasted $1 to get the “I Love You” teddy bear with the three-pronged metal thing, but instead it kept responding “try again.”
Donald Trump whispers sweet nothings like “Make America Great Again”, “I alone can fix it” and “Believe me” in your ear. In a relationship, if you have to tell someone to believe you, it’s usually not a good sign. Donald Trump does not love you, and if your relationship was “great” once, it was likely homogenous, segregated, lacked civil rights for people of color, was racist, bigoted, assassinated MLK Jr, JFK, didn’t allow interracial marriage, lynched African-Americans, allowed Jim Crow, interned Japanese-Americans, didn’t like black people counting your money…
Sorry I got carried away, but you get the idea.
This person further abuses you by minimizing, denying and blaming. He does not take responsibility for the words that sputter from his lips; and quite frankly, he does not care. When called out on his senseless verbiage, he often states his words were taken out of context or that he was misunderstood. He jumps at the chance to irrationally blame others instead of maturely seeking solutions. If solutions are offered, they’re usually nondescript or simple-minded.
This being colludes with other’s who are equally as dangerous, if not worse to society than he is. His running mate Mike Pence’s stance on matters related to civil rights, healthcare equity, education, and the environment, is deplorable.
I cannot force you to leave the grips of this vampire. He has revealed his true identity repeatedly. If you want someone who is openly racist, bigoted, and a sexual predator representing your country, it shows me we have a lot of work to do as a society. If you have chosen this organism as your candidate, you still have time to get out of this relationship. It is not too late.
With that said, I will never blame the victim. So many times, we tell the rape victim she should have worn a longer dress or should not have gotten drunk at that party. So many times we’ve asked, “But what did she do wrong?” Or we repugnantly state “We don’t know the whole story. She must have enticed him.”
You are not wrong, you are voicing your opinion, and I respect that. What I cannot respect are the values Donald Trump embodies. No other presidential candidate in history would be able to say or do the things he has and have a chance of becoming president of the United States.
The most disheartening component of his campaign is that he thrives on all things anti- American. American is a land of diversity. No other country on earth can contest our diversity of ideas, race, culture, and freedom. Unfortunately, it is that same freedom that has allowed him, and people like him to thrive. It is time for us to stand up against his white male privilege, narcissistic personality, and abusive tendencies. We have to stand against him. We have to boycott him. We have to organize. We have to vote!